Get over it!
D. PAUL REILLY
Published: May 24, 2013
I bumped into someone a few weeks ago whom I had not seen for quite some time. He looked absolutely miserable, and as I engaged him in conversation, he started to list a string of negative events which had taken place in his life in the preceding years. His previously thriving business had apparently come on hard times as the world economy faltered, which eventually resulted in him going bankrupt. When this happened, his wife of many years left him, took the children, and went to live with her mother in another town. Next, as he started to literally wallow in his misfortunes, his overall health started failing, which in turn caused him a whole lot of heartache and more money, which he really under the circumstances could not afford. Into the bargain, most of his so-called friends abandoned him, as they now considered him to be a loser.
At this point I interjected. They were not really friends in the first place, they were just hangers on. I further stated, a real, genuine friend is always there for you, not just when you're on top of the world, so to speak, but also when the chips are down and all hell breaks loose, as the saying goes. Yes indeed, real friends are always there for you when you need them, when things are not going too well for you in any aspect of your life.
So all in all, this guy's life did indeed appear to be in a terrible mess as one major problem after another kept occurring in his life with amazing regularity. He asked me what my advice would be under the circumstances he had just described, and I replied get over it!
Now, in case you thought that I was being cruel by saying get over it to the person who appeared to be going through pure hell with his life; remember, as that well-known saying so aptly puts it, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Oh how absolutely true that is! I guess it's called tough love in today's vernacular. You see, no matter how bad, how intolerable a situation may be in anyone's life, that person must stop feeling sorry for themselves, get over it, and become totally positive again, thus leaving the painful past behind and moving on to a totally new life of contentment, fulfillment, happiness and great success.
Let’s not forget, that many of the most successful people in the world were in fact once miserable failures. But they got over their failures, and moved on to a bright new future. You my friend, can do exactly the same. But first you must stop wallowing in destructive self-pity, and get over it. Yes you must!
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